As a young man gazes upon his future wife, she becomes the most beautiful woman in the world. No other woman compares with his soon to be wife. He does all he can do to wine and dine her and convince her that she has finally found her “Prince Charming.”
The woman on the other hand hopes she has found the “Knight in Shining Armor.” He has done many things that she has checked off her spousal list. She has placed her best foot forward and was successful at presenting her self a chosen vessel that was worthy of her man’s proposal. She even showed herself to be and adequate housekeeper, a smart dresser and a pretty good cook.
This is the perspective that each one saw in one another. The two shall become one was their ultimate goal for their lives. They wanted to duplicate each other by having children and having a happy family. A boy for him a girl for her and any extras will be just fine. Loving each other meant until death do us part. The two of you were committed to stay the course.
Several years on the marriage path, things begin to change. She had the girl for her and the boy for him, plus a couple more. Her body began to change with more than a “love handle” in various places on her body. Her time was no longer her own and her days were filled with meeting everyone’s needs but her own.
She was no longer the slim healthy person she was when she started out on this marital journey. He had lost his lustful pursuit of earlier times in their relationship. His eyes no longer gazed upon her with youthful lust. His sight had become cloudy which caused his eyes to roam for better looking bodies. He failed to adjust to the changes in life.
I need him to change some things. When we got married I thought he would take out the trash, help me clean up, watch the children sometimes and give me a break, do a little laundry, put gas in my car every now and then, and be the husband I dreamed of. But, over the years she put in a lot of time trying to make him into the man you thought you wanted. She failed to adjust to the changes of life.
Change comes from within. You cannot change anyone. As you see a need for change within yourself, then the change will come. What and who you were before you
Marry is the same one you said “I do” to. As you mature you will make changes by assessing your life’s path and how you are walking down it. You will learn to accept people for who they are. Your change of attitude will allow you and them to become an agent of effective change within themselves.
Allow your expectations to be realistic. Life is full of changes and we all will encounter these changes at one time or another. Communicate your wants and needs to each other. Make room for changes expected and unexpected. Love each other through these changes by being the first positive example. Changes will come. It’s just a part of life.
The woman on the other hand hopes she has found the “Knight in Shining Armor.” He has done many things that she has checked off her spousal list. She has placed her best foot forward and was successful at presenting her self a chosen vessel that was worthy of her man’s proposal. She even showed herself to be and adequate housekeeper, a smart dresser and a pretty good cook.
This is the perspective that each one saw in one another. The two shall become one was their ultimate goal for their lives. They wanted to duplicate each other by having children and having a happy family. A boy for him a girl for her and any extras will be just fine. Loving each other meant until death do us part. The two of you were committed to stay the course.
Several years on the marriage path, things begin to change. She had the girl for her and the boy for him, plus a couple more. Her body began to change with more than a “love handle” in various places on her body. Her time was no longer her own and her days were filled with meeting everyone’s needs but her own.
She was no longer the slim healthy person she was when she started out on this marital journey. He had lost his lustful pursuit of earlier times in their relationship. His eyes no longer gazed upon her with youthful lust. His sight had become cloudy which caused his eyes to roam for better looking bodies. He failed to adjust to the changes in life.
I need him to change some things. When we got married I thought he would take out the trash, help me clean up, watch the children sometimes and give me a break, do a little laundry, put gas in my car every now and then, and be the husband I dreamed of. But, over the years she put in a lot of time trying to make him into the man you thought you wanted. She failed to adjust to the changes of life.
Change comes from within. You cannot change anyone. As you see a need for change within yourself, then the change will come. What and who you were before you
Marry is the same one you said “I do” to. As you mature you will make changes by assessing your life’s path and how you are walking down it. You will learn to accept people for who they are. Your change of attitude will allow you and them to become an agent of effective change within themselves.
Allow your expectations to be realistic. Life is full of changes and we all will encounter these changes at one time or another. Communicate your wants and needs to each other. Make room for changes expected and unexpected. Love each other through these changes by being the first positive example. Changes will come. It’s just a part of life.
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